Self Improvement Learnings I got watching my kid play in rains
Rains are our lifeline, we can’t imagine what would happen where there is no rain..still we don’t seem to enjoy and soak in the beauty of it. Barring the first rains, most of the time we tend to crib about the stickiness, wetness, dirt, filth etc which monsoon brings along. But do we Live in the Moment ?
With this thought, i am making my first attempt to talk on self improvement. The reason I choose to speak on self improvement is i found many of the moms who felt overwhelmed after being a parent and specially those who turned SAHM (Stay at home moms) like me. And i kind of struggled my way only to identify that SELF is an important word that can make or break things.
Hence, today i’ll be sharing some self improvement learnings I got watching my kid play in rain. A simple act of playing in the rain, made a radical shift in my mind. But before I tell you what i learnt, let me tell you how did i reach to the conclusion.
What do Kids love the most ? They love to PLAY. So when it rains outside, Kid’s don’t want to stay inside.
They like to put their raincoats and boots and purposely go out in the rain to play. They love to stop in those muddy puddles, which we call it yuck. They find little streams and splash water on each other or run behind it. They may even make a paper boat and see it sail in the puddles till its all soggy n gone. They turn their umbrellas upside down, to check how much water have they collected and come home drenched without being much bothered.
Now, for a moment think about how we as adults react in a situation like this …
Imagine you have to cross 200 meters from your car to your building gate and you have no umbrella in hand. What do you do ? Grab your jacket and belongings and squeeze it as hard as possible to yourself making it act as a shield, if you have a book or a purse you try to cover your head with it. Some also check the wind direction and angle of the raindrops falling on them ( i am trying to be funny..hope you laughed). Basically,we try to run as fast as possible trying to dodge the rains !!!
In the end the result is the same – You are WET . But the difference between you and the kid is PERSPECTIVE / OUTLOOK towards the situation.
When you are out in the rain trying to dodge every raindrop, your body is tense, your heart rate is up, and the stress-inducing part of your nervous system is turned on.
But if you stand there and simply recognize the fact that you are going to be wet. You feel the tension release in a matter of seconds. It may not even take 1 min to release the stress levels and its just washed away.
With a tiny shift in the perspective of way you look at things in your day to day life can have major impacts to your mind, body and soul.
This simple rain episode taught me how to change perspective and live in the moment and hence here I am sharing my self improvement learnings.
FOCUS ON THE NOW
Kids live in the moment. They are not distracted by the fact that two mins ago they were crying for their favorite toy. Similarly as a parent, if you spending time with your child don’t think about errands or how you are not taking up a job etc etc . Let thoughts not over power your current scenario
PAY ATTENTION TO SMALL THINGS
Blow bubbles with your child, Listen to music, Break some rules with your child – like eating ice cream on a rainy day. The idea is to identify what gives you happiness. Like for me,my foodart gave me happiness when i began and that made me forget my concerns for few mins.
SMILE
If we are happy, we smile. If we smile, it makes us feel happy. Our face communicates our state of mind to others and to ourselves. So smile — it will make you happier and help you appreciate yourself.
DON’T WORRY
Worrying today, does not change anything. So forget about whether you were working or not, or whether you will ever take up a job or not. Worrying takes you out of this moment and transports you into the realm of future possibilities, it’s impossible to live in the moment and worry at the same time.
LEARN FROM YOUR KIDS
A child is never sad for a long time – Little things don’t affect them, they give more than 100 % to do things, they say what they feel – similarly you can listen to your emotions and say it out. They are always looking out ways to learn and so can you. So be a child again and live life moments to the fullest.
Hosted By : This blog is part of #birthdayblogtrain hosted by Gunjan & Neha. I would like to thank Shipra to introduce me to the blog train and would love to introduce Sinduja to share her take on the monsoon prompts
Thats so true Sonam, sometimes we get so lost in our life that we stop to enjoy the moments. Focus on Now is the right thing , something we as a child would love doing, but as grown up- things get changed. The worst part is that we miss those times 🙂
Absolutely we miss it bcaz we have stopped living it.. Rather it should be creating happy memories
True that!
What a lovely thought!! We indeed have a lot to learn from our kids. I had written something on the same lines long back. https://beingathinkaholic.com/lessons-my-daughter-teaches-me/
Thanks you.. Oh thats great would love to read it
Well said and observed that with a tiny shift in the perspective of how we see the things can have a great effect on our mind, body and soul. Loved your self improvement learning’s and thanks for the share.
Thanks for loving the post
What an adorable blog post it is. SELF is important. And the perspective you felt in that tiny moment about how kids look, and how adults thought process works, its commendable! Really enjoyed reading it 🙂
Loved your thoughts sonam and I completely agree with you, as a grown up we often forget to pay attention on tiny treasures of life. And we can learnt a lot from kids, they had so Many amazing qualities that can hell us a lot in self improvement. #birthdayblogtrain
So very true. Kids teach us a lot. From their simple acts we can leave life greatest lessons. They know how to live in the present and enjoy every moment.
Kids are a school in themselves if we arre open to learning. Great post.👍
That is so true, we can learn so much from our children. This was a lovely take on the prompts- very refreshing.
So thoughtful. Completely agree to the post. There is so much to learn from our kids.
Great observation, lovely write up … It is tru that in our day to day lives we can learn a lot from childre. They are so simple that they see things as they are without being judgemental.
We have a lot to learn from kids. Especially living the present. We are eithe too preoccupied or we resort to clicking pics, rather than enjoying present.
Quite an observation and Well said Sonam. Kids teach us a lot with their fresh perception. Few days ago I shared a similar thought http://lifewithmypenguin.com/what-to-learn-from-your-child/
So true! We the grown-ups don’t enjoy small things in life as we should. Learning from children is the best thing to do.
Yes kids are indeed great teachers, they live in moment and forgive others mistakes easily. We all need to take lessons from kids.
Loved your post, Sonam. There are a lot of things that we can learn from kids, they are carefree and they know how to have fun. Over the years, the definition of fun changes and then we realize this fun is not giving us joy anymore. But many times this realization strikes too late in life. I hope your post will help people to realize what they are missing in life by ignoring the simple joys.
Kids are great teachers…how do I know? I AM A MOM AND A TEACHER TOO!🤣🤣
I completely agree, learning many things from my little one . To live in the present is the greatest pleasure ever. wonderful post
We often learn a lot from kids. We don’t accept it as much. It all depends on our perspective towards life on all fronts. Great post. Loved it. 😊
Completely agree with The fact that its not a child’s play to be a child
Indeed we learn a lot from kids
Beautiful post
This is a thought provoking post. Learning from kids to let go and live in the moment is a great learning.
A Nice read… There is so much to learn from our kids
Amazing how we are the parents but really it is the kids who are teaching us some valuable life lessons everyday
Lovely post ,loved the way you have explained , we should enjoy small things and moments 🙂
It’s all about being happy and thankful to Almighty.
Thank you so much
My post this blog train is on similar idea. I hated rain however seeing my son enjoying it so much, my affection for rain is also back. IT is a fact that we can learn so much from our kids only. How they believe in staying happy and how they dont ignore even the smallest thing! They are inspiration for happy living.
Wow, this is really a lovely take from the prompt.. We should learn so many things from our kids..
Kids teach us a lot. Actually somewhere after coming in to adulthood, we draw a line of limitation for us…. that stop us living fully
Kids are the best example in giving lessons on how to enjoy every single happiness and multiple your joy when get success. We really forget our childhood in the race of making money, technology and success. Nice post
Kids and especially the millennial can teach the parents back and on multiple topics. Great post in correlation with rains
What a lovely write up, I can say we are learning a lot more then we make them.learn..